Monday, June 23, 2008

And so it begins

Because I am me and being me involves an intense love of planning things and a hefty pinch of neurosis, I am neck deep in finding a date and a venue. It will be done, and it will be done soon and in budget. So help me.

For the most part, it's been going fine. We have a number of options, and my parents have kindly agreed to check them out for us. I'm fairly confident that we'll be able to come up with something good fairly soon (luckily, I'm not all that picky in this area). However, all this planning means I've been spending some time on wedding planning forums (mostly the Ravelry forum, because I'm still a little scared of brides but I'm not scared of knitters...it's like my baby step into bride-land). One of the common topics on these forums is how crazy one's mother or future mother-in-law is, how overbearing, how ridiculous. They talk about all of their parents' friends who have to be invited who are obnoxious. They talk about disparaging comments about their weight or their dress or their invitations. Some of the stories are truly terrifying.

I just want to take this moment to say, publicly, thank you Mom and Dad and Kris (FMIL) and Wes (FFIL) for being so amazingly sane. And supportive. I realize that this wedding will be challenging to plan since B and I are in Cleveland and the wedding will probably be in Minneapolis. Also we are med students. That probably doesn't help. But you guys are awesome. Nobody is insisting on venues or colors or guests we don't want. It probably helps that B and I both, you know, actually really like our families and want to invite all of our aunts and uncles and cousins. Also, we like our parents' close friends. But, seriously, thank you. You have all been very clear that you are thrilled for us and will do whatever you can to help without being at all invasive. I couldn't ask for anything better than that.

7 comments:

Rachel said...

I'm glad you're embracing your planning/neurotic side. As much as it'll probably be stressful, the planning will also be lots of fun! (Says a fellow planning neurotic)

Also, wedding probably in Mpls? How come? Not that I'm complaining...

twinsetellen said...

I feel funny saying you're welcome when we feel so fortunate about it all. But, you're welcome!

stape's mom said...

No grandparents? (just kidding)

Tam said...

J says I need to be more positive when talking to you so I don't scare you. I am glad you are off to a great start! Don't be afriad of TheKnot, definately check out the MN local boards for recommendations of venue. Welcome fellow "knottie"!

twinsetjan said...

I'm going to insist on giving you some advice...when people insist on giving you advice, first smile and say 'thank you, that's great advice!'...and then do whatever the heck you want to do. Even if it's your mother...or her clone.

Kathy said...

We will keep our fingers and toes crossed for good weather for the big day. And remember, so long as at the end of the day you are married, the most important thing got done right!

Meredith C-N said...

Good luck with the planning, m'dear! It will no doubt be a gorgeous day, wherever/whenever it may be held.

Yes, those bridal types do seem pretty gosh darn scary.